MEN:  We ask that fathers, or if that is not possible the next most significant man to the boy, to find a symbolic gift to give to the boy during the event. Also, write a short letter of recognition and support for the boy to be presented during the retreat. THIS IS IMPORTANT!

WOMEN: We ask that mothers or other significant woman find a symbolic gift to mark this time; this will be presented to him at the beginning (sending off) ceremony. THIS IS IMPORTANT!

BOY: We ask that the boy bring an item or photo from his childhood as a symbol of the childhood he is leaving behind. THIS IS IMPORTANT!